I have felt as though in recent years, I have started to become more shy. But shyness isn’t the right word. It’s as though you just want to not talk, but other people mistake you as shy. I’ve started to become more educated in this matter and have learned many things. *All this is based on books and experience.
It’s something called sensitivity, that nearly 20% of the population has. It’s different from being and introvert (people that are drained from socializing) ( but is somewhat correlated) and shyness (you can love to socialize, but are afraid of what other people think of you.)
This sensitively basically means that your nervous system is more sensitive to stimuli than others. This the bases neurology of introversion and extroversion. Sensitive people have the ability to notice very subtle changes of the environment, are easily overwhelmed, usually are affected by others moods, more proactive to depression and anxiety and many other traits. But not all introverts are sensitive, and not all extroverts are NOT sensitive. Also, not all sensitive people have these traits.
Sensitive people are usually seen as quiet, shy, and easily hurt. It doesn’t been you don’t have the social skills, in basic terms, it means you see everything around you, all the details, and this causes you to feel tired after being in a social environment for too long.
I need to tell you something: there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you, yes we tend to worry a lot, and tend to be misunderstood. But we need to find and fit into this pro-extrovert society (in most of the world). Socializing may seem complicated to you, like it seems to me, just relax , take a deep breath, and enjoy your own company, with the exposure of other from time to time.
This post didnt even lover 10% of the wonderful information that can be found on this. When I read the books, I felt understood, and life seemed to make a little more sense.